Marriage Pressure

Marriage Pressure
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Recently, I read on a facebook page, a post from a lady who was asking for advice about a guy outside the country who she met on facebook, who introduced her to his friends and brother on phone and video chats.
She says he even uploads her pictures on facebook saying she is his wife to be and he is so proud of her.
She continues, by mentioning the fact that he said he was coming back soon for their introduction but she has to contribute financially in all aspect of the preparation because he wants to complete the construction of his house within all those period.
Our sister says she is about finishing her NYSC and she is confused. So she needs sincere advices from people.
Now what do you advice?
I sure do know you have many serious advice to give, just like people gave her under her post on this page.
What do I think? I'm sure you definitely want to know what I think.
All I see is marriage pressure!
Marriage pressure is expected in a woman starting from the age of 22. This is not about being forward or desperate, this is an uncontrollable feeling that comes from within. It tells you as a lady that your clock is ticking, it alerts you that this is the period where you have to be ready and conscious before you clock 30.
Yes, the statement 'single at 30 ' is every lady's bad note, marriage deadline notice and a panic switch.
At this stage a lady's mental alertness to some sensitive aspects involved in screening a man reduces.
Though it reduces, another alertness awakens, they start looking for their dream quality in men. They look for and accept their partners based on the qualities a man possess that they always wish for.
You can agree with me, that definitely there is no how there won't be mistakes of conflicting results and wrong choices.
That goes with the story of our sister above.
Marriage pressure goes so far in building a wrong priority in the heart and mind of some single ladies just  like a cataract which is yet to be removed in the eye of its host. It keeps on spreading till it blinds the eye totally. This is how wrong priorities build their space in their host's mind/heart.
 Ladies, it is normal to feel pressured. Yes! It is. Don't allow anyone castigate you for possessing one of your natural qualities as a woman.
But you have to understand and accept the fact that you are feeling pressured when you are feeling pressured . And also understand this is a stage you have to be careful and sensitive about.
It's more like knowing your weakness and protecting yourself from allowing other people take advantage of you through it.
Open your mind to the foes of this period and understand how careful you should be with your assumptions and speculation.
Don't even trust your heart when it comes to what it wants and what it wants to believe, focus on what you should really believe and never forget to pray. Never let the fear of loneliness decide for you.
You think feeling lonely is worse?  Got to marriage forums on social medias and listen to different stories married couples have.
There are things scarier than loneliness in marriage. Never think marriage is the end of loneliness, it is actually one of the places your patience and loneliness before marriage is tested.
Let your brain, heart and mind be as sharp as the eye of an eagle.


Accepting  someone as your life partner is a great decision, that would affect and influence your single life, your relationship with your family, your relationship with other people that aren't even family and your future relationship with your children.
Don't be a victim of marriage pressure, let marriage pressure be a victim of your knowledge and reasoning. Learn, don't leap.
I know you would love to hear about the advice people gave our sister concerning her story. Smiles
Everyone actually told her she was dealing with a fraudster, which is absolutely true.
Will you allow an expected pressure give you more unexpected and unnecessary pressure in the future?
Remember your decision, your consequences.